Hot Tip for a Sexy Date Night

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In honor of Valentine’s Day coming up next weekend, I'm going to give you a hot tip so you can have a sexy date night. 

Tip: Have an honest and vulnerable conversation.


Yep, it turns out that vulnerable conversations are a big turn on. More so than a new technique or lingerie. In couples that have a really great sex life, across the board, the most common denominator is that they have open, vulnerable conversations often. 


That’s not always easy to do of course, but great sex begins with your mouth…your words to be exact. 

Over the years I have purchased a few card games that are meant to help facilitate these kinds of conversations. I got one a few months ago that I think is the best one I’ve come across. 


It’s called: How Deep Will You Go?  


I just got an email saying that it is 40% off right now, so I thought I’d pass a link to their website in case any of you are interested. If you don’t want to buy another “thing”, there are different lists of questions you can look up online if this idea intrigues you. Print off a list of questions and plan a special night, who knows where it could lead!


My husband and I play this game a few nights a week usually, by drawing a card or two from each level. It’s really great because the questions are asked in a way that you get to choose how deeply you want to answer, hence the name of the game. It allows for couples in all stages of their relationship to “safely” play by not forcing anyone to talk about something they don’t want to, they get to choose how to answer. 

Doing something like this is a great way to put a spark back in your relationship. In the beginning it’s all exciting and arousing because you want to know everything about the other person, you can’t get enough. But after being married for years or decades you start to feel like you pretty much know everything about your spouse and it gets a little boring, you love them but that urgency, that desire to consume everything about them dies down a little, or a lot. 


So, if it’s been a while since you’ve taken a deep dive into all the nooks and crannies of your spouse's soul, a vulnerable conversation might just ignite a little flame again as you discover that you are married to a different person than you were 10 years ago and there’s all kinds of interesting things that go through their mind that you didn’t know about. 


Here’s a link to that game if you are interested. There is a deck for lovers and a deck with more general questions for relationships with family and friends. I’m not affiliated with them, I just think they’ve created a good thing.

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