The Goddess is Feminine

Feminine energy is not about looking, dressing or speaking in a certain way.  Feminine energy is an inner energy, not an outer look. 

We talked about the Shiva and Shakti principle in this post. Shakti is the feminine, mother energy. 

Shiva and Shakti are a personification of the dance between the masculine and feminine.

Shiva is space, consciousness, he is the solid structure of the background of existence. 

Shakti is the energy of creation, manifestation, life, emotions–everything we can see, hear, smell, taste and touch. 

This feminine energy we are speaking of is our nature as women. This is not about trying to become something outside of ourselves. It is not about us not being enough and it’s something we need to “get from somewhere else”. 

It’s about coming back home to ourselves. It’s more of an “undoing” than a “doing”. 

So much of our cultural, spiritual and religious programming has disconnected us from ourselves, our emotions, from our bodies, our pleasure, our sensuality and our sexuality. This is true for men as well, but it is especially true for women. 

I’m going to discuss a few of the common blocks to accessing our feminine energy. 

1- Living from the head up

We are chronically in thinking mode, doing mode, etc. chronically stressed. These things make us live in our head and we can become very disconnected and dissociated from our body. 

The feminine is experienced through the body.  So, if we are not connected to our body, if we are always living and functioning from the head up–we are going to struggle to access our feminine energy. 

2-Negative beliefs (conscious & unconscious) about the feminine. 

In our culture, feminine qualities are generally not as valued as masculine qualities. We value the mind and the intellect and linear thinking much more than the wisdom of the body, intuition and creativity. 

This sends messages to us that cause us to believe, both consciously and unconsciously, that feminine energy is inferior or weak. Most women do not have many role models, past or present, in their life that model feminine energy. Because most of us view feminine energy as negative or weak, we disconnect from it because it’s not safe to embody that aspect of ourselves. 

3- A disconnection from the natural rhythms of our world. 

Most of us spend almost all of our time indoors in front of a computer with a phone in our hand, completely disconnected from the natural world. 

We are not in tune with the seasons, the moon, etc.  We all know “mother nature”, but do we really stop and consider that our earth is feminine? When we are disconnected from nature, we are actually disconnected from a huge source of feminine energy and power. 

When we are disconnected from the cycles of seasons, plants and animals and the moon phases, when we are disconnected from the “outer” nature we start to disconnect from our inner natural rhythms and cycles. 

Feminine energy thrives when we honor our cyclical nature and our inner rhythms. Modern culture tends to value very linear modes of being–constantly being in the same energy level day after day, in go-go-go mode and doesn’t really honor or celebrate feminine rhythms. When we women try to fit in that linear box we start to feel depleted and our feminine energy isn’t able to thrive. 

4- Past hurts that make us close our hearts. 

This is a deep and profound block. As we go through life and experience painful or challenging things, as a protection we create walls and armour over our heart to try and protect ourselves from pain. But in doing so we also close ourselves off to pleasure and love and a huge part of life. 

Awakening our feminine energy is about opening to the fullness of life. It’s about letting life, both the pain and the pleasure, open you deeper and deeper. This is about releasing that armour and having the courage to live with an open heart. 

I am going to spend the next several posts looking at practices that we can engage in to fill our cups and release some of these blocks we all have.  A self-sourced woman fills her own cup through practices full of life energy, full of Shakti energy. As females, at our core we yearn to feel full of life and love. It really is our natural state. 

If we don’t fill our own cup on purpose, we may seek to fill it through the outside world by seeking attention or validation. Often using manipulation tactics when we are coming from a place of lack. It becomes transactional as we try and “get something in return” so that we can feel fuller. This leads to disempowerment, giving temporary highs and feeling empty when we don’t get it. 

When we are coming from a place of lack and try to fill ourselves from an outer source, we will attract people operating from that same frequency and we will see unhealthy patterns unfolding in our lives over and over. 

Self-sourcing, filling your own cup through different practices, leads you to feeling:

Soft, open, creative, nourished, warm, inspired, radiant, confident and fully at home in yourself. 

From this state of fullness, we start to overflow. That wonderfully fluid, yin-Shakti feminine essence starts to pour out of us. This state of overflow is what is often called “feminine magnetism”. Everyone wants to be magnetic, they want to magnetize their dream life, partner, etc. But feminine magnetism is not what you do, it’s what you are. It’s not about doing, it’s about being. 

You naturally become more radiant and magnetic. You shine more brightly, you exude a sense of warmth, you bring life to the occasion, you activate an aliveness in those around you. The way you smile at a stranger or acknowledge someone on the street can literally light them up. Because there is something about your presence that is completely alive and present in this state of overflow–you can remind people of their own aliveness. 

This is a gift of the feminine–to light up someone's soul by their own radiance and connection to God. This is what men find so compelling about women–this light, this radiance and warmth in a cold, dark, mean world.