Your Standard for Beauty

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The definition for Adulterate is:

“To render (something) poorer in quality by adding another substance, typically an inferior one.”
We adulterate our marriage by bringing something(or someone) else within the boundaries that are exclusive to that relationship. Scripturally, the image of God is given to us as: a marriage between a man and a woman and the emotional and sexual intimacy within that relationship is an exclusive right reserved only for that couple.

To give emotional or sexual energy to someone other than your spouse adulterates your marriage relationship. Hence the term adultery or emotional affairs.

But can we adulterate our marriage by something other than technically “committing adultery”? I think so. If we are placing anything(hobbies, jobs, entertainment, etc) or anyone(including your own child, family, friends, etc) above the intimacy reserved for your spouse, then you are adulterating the relationship.

Anytime we place anything or anyone as a higher desire/priority than our spouse, we are adulterating the relationship.

My friend sent me a video made by a Pastor. As I was looking at some other things he has said, I came across this:
“You live as a one woman man. You don’t do the porn thing, you don’t do the “flirt with other girls" thing, you don’t have secret texts with other women, you don’t cultivate deep friendships with other females, you are a one woman man. Mentally, emotionally, visually, sexually, physically, you have eyes for only her and you let her know very clearly with no equivocation or apology that she is your standard of beauty.
She doesn’t have to live up to any airbrushed chick in a magazine, you’re not cultivating images on the screen or in real life with other women, that she feels the weight and embarrassment to try and live up to and knows she never can.
You say: No, YOU are my standard of beauty. You are the one I live for and then you actively guard your eyes and make a covenant with your eyes to honor her sexually.” -Pastor Josh Mcpherson

A godly man standing in his full power honors his woman openly, making it clear that his energy belongs only to her. He has risen above fleeting desires. He does not entertain, he does not waver. His devotion is absolute.

Sometimes I hear a misconception men have about showing up for their woman–that it is a task, a duty, a sacrifice. But this couldn’t be further from the truth. What does a man receive when he devotes himself to his wife, when he holds space for her, when he creates safety within himself for her?

The answer: Everything.

He gains everything–he doesn’t lose himself.

Devotion to a godly woman is not a burden. It is the gateway to his receiving infinitely.


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