Holy Order - Holy Marriage

I’m sure we’ve all been through phases in our marriage where it feels like you’re in a battle rather than an intimate relationship. You know how it is, every conversation becomes a potential conflict and every moment is met with defensiveness instead of empathy, how it feels like you are constantly attacking or on guard, protecting yourself from perceived attacks rather than opening up to your spouse in vulnerability. You feel like your relationship is broken, struggling, very little trust is found and deep connection only feels like a frustrated dream. I think we’ve all been there, and it really sucks! It’s so hard when you feel like your spouse is your enemy. A few years ago God taught me something about my marriage. I suppose it was something I have heard before, but this time it stuck. I understood it. I was shown that when my husband and I were fighting and at odds with each other, I viewed us as being enemies. I saw us as being on opposite sides, that we were against each other....

I have been speaking of a very high standard for men in several posts on this blog and I want to explore an aspect of what a woman looks like as a counterpart to that kind of man. There are many features of the feminine, of course, she is big and expansive. She is like water and pours into many different parts of life, but I want to speak of one sacred quality of the divine feminine today. For the scriptural definition, I will go to Ephesians 5:22-25. Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. This is saying that the husband is to his wife as Christ is to the church. So quite literally, we women should reverence and devote ourselves to our husband in the same way that we are commanded to do so to Jesus Christ. A woman is to give herself to her husband and a man i...

When I first started this blog, I intended to write it geared more towards women. After all, who is writing to women? Where do we find holy writings written by women for women? Where do we find the “prototype” of the saved woman? We simply don’t. The scriptures are sparse to say the least. I have tried to write my posts as I feel impressed to do so by the spirit and it turns out that, for the moment, this blog is actually geared more to you men who read it. This has been interesting for me to experience. I have discussed this with my husband a lot and he agrees -Men need to hear what I have to say to them. As I have stated in various ways over several posts, a marriage can begin to ascend, only when the man is willing to rise up. A woman stepping into her fullness is dependent on her husband stepping into his fullness. I expect that is triggering for women, and perhaps some men, to read. But it is true. This is why: This world is very unsafe for the feminine, divine or not. I have lon...

The eternal principle of Consecration to God permeates a truly sacred marriage. If we look at the order of covenants in an LDS temple endowment, we will see that it is impossible to enter into a covenant of consecration(at least in its fullness in the eternities, which is really what the temple is pointing us towards) until a covenant of marriage has been entered into.  A marriage established by God is meant to bring the fruits of the union not only to the couple, but it is also meant to benefit the world. The fruits of a holy marriage bring what is divine in each partner into greater manifestation, making each one a truer reflection of who they really are. At its most foundational level it is a spiritual bond. (To be very clear, I am NOT talking about the absolute foolishness that abounds with terms like “spiritual wife”, “soulmates”, “spiritual spouse” or anything of the sort that seeks to justify any intimate relationship, emotional or sexual, with anyone except your legal hus...

  Several years ago, right before my marriage experienced its “mighty change”, I had an experience. I had come across a book about Tantra and was flipping through the pages. I didn’t really know much about Tantra and was curious. I stopped on a practice called eye gazing and read. It was basically saying that the eyes are the gateway to the soul, particularly the left eye. You were to situate yourselves closely so you could gently gaze into each other's eyes. The goal was to be able to see the divinity in your partner and have your own divinity reflected back to you, or something along those lines.  As I read about this practice, I experienced a vision of sorts of my husband and I doing this practice. As I imagined us gazing deeply into each other's eyes and really being seen, it was almost as if some veil dropped between us and he actually looked into my soul or something. As soon as that happened I felt a jolt of panic ripple through my body in response and I backed away fro...

  Proverbs 3:15 says: “She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her.“  I actually prefer the NIV which reads: “She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare to her.” Further in chapter 31:10-11 it says: “ Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her…” The Greek word translated as virtue is Dynamus, which means strength or power.  Our word dynamite comes from this word and it actually means tremendous power. The suffix “ous” means to be filled with or full of. A virtuous woman is a woman filled with or full of tremendous power. The word that is translated as “rubies” is actually the word for pearls. The pearl was the standard of excellence in the scriptures. The pearl of great price. This is speaking of the bride price. It is saying that a virtuous woman’s “price” is far above the standard for excellence. In fact so far above i...