Holy Order - Holy Marriage

  Proverbs 3:15 says: “She is more precious than rubies: and all the things thou canst desire are not to be compared unto her.“  I actually prefer the NIV which reads: “She is more precious than rubies; nothing you desire can compare to her.” Further in chapter 31:10-11 it says: “ Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her…” The Greek word translated as virtue is Dynamus, which means strength or power.  Our word dynamite comes from this word and it actually means tremendous power. The suffix “ous” means to be filled with or full of. A virtuous woman is a woman filled with or full of tremendous power. The word that is translated as “rubies” is actually the word for pearls. The pearl was the standard of excellence in the scriptures. The pearl of great price. This is speaking of the bride price. It is saying that a virtuous woman’s “price” is far above the standard for excellence. In fact so far above i...

  2 Chronicles 3:15 tells us: “Then he set up the two pillars at the entrance of the temple, one to the south of the entrance and the other to the north. He named the one on the south Jakin, and the one on the north Boaz.” This is interesting for a few reasons. One being that the placement of the pillars indicates that the temple entrance faced east. It is likely that one pillar aligned with the winter solstice and the other with the summer solstice, thus allowing them to orient the entrance to true east.  The other reason is what I am going to talk about today. The two pillars. This is an ancient architectural design used all over the world. Two pillars flanking the entrance to a holy place. The two pillars symbolize balance and unity between the masculine and feminine, the middle path that lies ahead of the disciple, that sort of thing. In sacred geometry, the vesica pisces is another shape that conveys similar ideas. It is the shared space when two bodies come together. It ...

We’ve all walked into a room after two people have been in an argument and we can feel the negative energy hanging in the air. Even without them saying a word, we can feel the tension between them.  Everything is energy/spirit. A woman doesn’t have to be literally telling a man all of the negative things that she believes and thinks about him, all she has to do is have a subtle thought in the back of her mind that clouds her ability to see anything good or divine in him–this alone creates an energetic contraction in him. His spirit picks up on her thoughts/beliefs and rather than expanding towards her, he retracts backward into himself. Both men and women are often unaware that they behave in ways that cause others, especially the opposite sex, to perceive them as a threat and then react from the worst part of themselves. It’s like kicking a dog and then being surprised that it runs away or bites you.  It’s instinctual and it is activated by the perception of a threat. When we...

A friend shared a concern he had with some things I wrote in Dear Men and Dear Women, and I would like to address it. He said: "In romantic relationships, one of the most common dysfunctional pairings is that of an avoidant attachment man paired with an anxiously attached woman. Many marriage therapists will tell you that this is the most common arrangement seen among their clients. Your two pieces together seem to somewhat endorse this arrangement, so I was thinking you might want to explain how the ideal relationship you present differs from that dysfunctional version. Anyhow, at a very quick read, your pieces could be viewed as promoting this pattern if not studied more deeply." My response follows, My husband and I have embodied that unhealthy anxious/avoidant dynamic in various ways for most of our marriage, as I expect most people have. We have engaged in an extensive amount of healing work in our relationship with each other, and this was only possible when we were bot...

I have really struggled writing this post. There are many directions I could go with this, but I've settled on describing what the divine feminine looks like in relation to the divine masculine I spoke of in Dear Men.  There is certainly some level of the divine feminine and masculine that we can all tap into, but its fullest expression can only be found in a relationship between the two.  A woman needs contact with an embodied conscious man in order to fully come into and experience her femininity. She needs to experience herself in relation to an energetically powerful opposite. A clear opposite. A decisive opposite. An opposite who knows what he’s doing.  We can do many healing practices to learn self love and address past trauma and open ourselves up, but without that divine polarizing experience there will be something huge missing.  Remember, men and women are opposites for a reason. Everything functions on polarity. With no up, there is no down. With no yin th...