Holy Order - Holy Marriage

Feminine energy is not about looking, dressing or speaking in a certain way.  Feminine energy is an inner energy, not an outer look.  We talked about the Shiva and Shakti principle in this post . Shakti is the feminine, mother energy.  Shiva and Shakti are a personification of the dance between the masculine and feminine. Shiva is space, consciousness, he is the solid structure of the background of existence.  Shakti is the energy of creation, manifestation, life, emotions–everything we can see, hear, smell, taste and touch.  This feminine energy we are speaking of is our nature as women. This is not about trying to become something outside of ourselves. It is not about us not being enough and it’s something we need to “get from somewhere else”.  It’s about coming back home to ourselves. It’s more of an “undoing” than a “doing”.  So much of our cultural, spiritual and religious programming has disconnected us from ourselves, our emotions, from our bodi...

Before I begin to take a look at the ways the feminine gets shut down inside of us women, I wanted to speak to you men about this. If your wife begins to start going within and exploring her own sensuality as a woman, it is in your best interest to know how you fit into that exercise.  What role you play, what you can bring to the table.  I will share with you one of the deepest desires women have from the masculine. One of the biggest gifts you can bring to your woman, it is what we crave from you, what we need from you, what we desire from you. Because the absolute truth is that the feminine always wants more. The true feminine nature is chaos, we are not linear like the masculine. And our system will always want more. Our desires are always for more, they’re always so much bigger than what we may be expressing in any given moment–more connection, more intimacy, more closeness, more vulnerability, more depth. There’s a really beautiful analogy that the feminine is like the o...

  A woman’s softness is sacred. It’s alluring. It’s vulnerable. It’s desired. Most men spend their day out in the world working. For the most part that work requires focus, discipline, and usually not a lot of intimate or soft connection with the people he comes into contact with. When he comes home, he wants peace. That doesn’t mean he has no interest in hearing about his wife’s day or thoughts or feelings, it means he doesn’t want to come home and have to “fight”. He’s been fighting in one way or another all day. He doesn’t want to come home and encounter a hardened, cold and distant woman who feels more like the CEO of a company rather than his lover. Men, if you want your woman to soften in your presence and trust in your lead, it’s up to you to treat her in a way that supports her softness and inspires her trust.  Men are often unaware of the ways their actions and words close their partner’s heart and shut down her sexuality in the process.  Ways of communicating th...

At what point do we stop just procrastinating the days of our repentance and start provoking the Lord? My husband recently sent me something that said: “Procrastination is the arrogant assumption that God owes you another opportunity to do what you had time to do.” Perhaps that is why it is a provocation to God when we refuse to rise up and ascend the mountain but instead prefer to have Moses do it and then just tell us what to do.   And what are we to repent of?   What are we to offer up to God as an acceptable sacrifice? What was it that the children of Israel refused to do? Because it was a blatant refusal on their part, otherwise God would not have been provoked.   They surely offered many sacrifices as they left Egypt and yet they still provoked God by refusing to give what was asked. Is it possible that we offer up many “sacrifices” but still refuse to offer that one sacrifice that God asks of us? How do we know if we have offered it up? Can we know? Is it possible ...

  By treating sacred scripture as a logical, linear text, we cut ourselves off from the experience the texts were meant to create.  The result? Religion becomes theory instead of transformation, knowledge becomes intellect instead of vision, and the path to God is lost. All because we read a mystical text like scripture, like a logic puzzle as if it is primarily a history or a story, but it is not merely a historical story or even an argument—it is supposed to be an initiation into direct experience with the unchanging God. For the entire history of this earth, mankind has taken sacred knowledge meant to awaken the soul and turned it into a dry religion meant only to stimulate the intellect by “studying” sacred knowledge in exchange for direct experience. What if the scriptures are not meant to be intellectual but initiatory, designed to lead people beyond rational thought and into direct experience of God? By distorting the teachings, modern religion(organized and not) cuts ...

In honor of Valentine’s Day coming up next weekend, I'm going to give you a hot tip so you can have a sexy date night.  Tip: Have an honest and vulnerable conversation. Yep, it turns out that vulnerable conversations are a big turn on. More so than a new technique or lingerie. In couples that have a really great sex life, across the board, the most common denominator is that they have open, vulnerable conversations often.  That’s not always easy to do of course, but great sex begins with your mouth…your words to be exact.  Over the years I have purchased a few card games that are meant to help facilitate these kinds of conversations. I got one a few months ago that I think is the best one I’ve come across.  It’s called: How Deep Will You Go?   I just got an email saying that it is 40% off right now, so I thought I’d pass a link to their website in case any of you are interested. If you don’t want to buy another “thing”, there are different lists of question...